At some point what’s working and not working in our life is our responsibility, regardless of what someone is doing or what circumstances must be navigated.
There’s always going to be something that’s not working well.
We can control our thoughts, words, attitude, and actions.
The best practice is taking responsibility for our own life. Yes, we know this sounds weird; however, we live in an era that blame is often the first response.
I’ve learned there’s freedom in focusing on my response rather than taking on shame or finding a way to blame someone.
Determine to stand firm on what’s non-negotiable. A non-negotiable is something anchored deep within us and will not change.
A non-negotiable may take a great deal of continual soul-work.
Jesus gave a big-deal non-negotiable: Love your neighbor.
Loving our neighbor is not as easy as it seems. The thing is . . . there will be haters, gossipers, and shunners . . . along the way. It’s the reality of living. Even so, we are not to return the same treatment to them. Because. Love is a non-negotiable.
It’s a difficult but important non-negotiable: Love your neighbor, even if, your neighbor tells a negative story and attempts to destroy your character and place in life. (Or, they do the same to someone you know and appreciate.)
I’ve learned praying for God’s blessing on the hater, gossiper, and shunner is hard but essential for me to keep love flowing. Our resistance for praying the best for someone reveals an obstacle to experiencing the flow of love in our own life.
Choose to make love your non-negotiable. Let go of the resistance to love someone. Let love be your answer. Let love win.
Take Time With God
Pause, breathe deeply, and focus on the presence of God to gain perspective. Focusing on God does not need to be complicated. Familiarity with the presence of God increases when focusing on God is repeatedly practiced. The ancient words of the Psalmist in Psalm 46 describes practicing the presence of God with five simple words: Be still and know God.
Write It Down
- Write down the details of the situation.
- Evaluate what’s yours to do in the whole scenario.
- Do what’s yours to do.
- Relax. Enjoy what’s yours to do. Ultimately responsibilities are key in completing our life assignment.
*Connect with a life-coach, pastor, spiritual advisor, professional counselor, or trusted friend for direction, guidance, and wisdom.