At some point or another, most of us experience feeling tired all the time. More often than not, tiredness is derived from our response to the circumstances needing to be managed and navigated every. single. day.
When there’s too much to manage in life, we require a greater amount of energy. We can sustain giving more energy than usual for a bit of time; however, we will become increasingly tired as we use up our reserves of energy. As our reserve of energy lessens, we begin to feel overwhelmed. And, yes, we require additional energy to manage how we feel.
Our response to this place in life is unique in our uniqueness. But. Regardless of who we are . . . the mind, body, and soul . . . are impacted by this unhealthy state of being. At some point in this “depletion” cycle, there is often a “melt-down” with symptoms of exhaustion and stress.
It’s a hard place to be in; yet, it’s a place to learn about ourselves. One of the greatest lessons to be learned is how fear plays a role in it all. Fear comes in many formats. There’s fear of not being accepted, not belonging, not being good enough, or not being able to control the outcome of the circumstances. This does not mean we walk away from our responsibilities but it does mean we must continually evaluate what matters and what does not matter.
One of my favorite people in my life, Pastor Charles (Chuck) Higgins, came to our faith community to move us into healing after we had broken in half. Everyone had become tired of all the problems which had risen at hurricane force. Half of the community stayed and the other half left in the midst of it all.
Our faith community had a melt down and became stressed beyond our limits. We were beyond tired with it all.
Pastor Chuck came. He made it clear that his sole purpose was to help our community heal. He gave us wise instruction and helped us move out of the hard places. Part of his method included meeting frequently with the staff who stayed. I remain grateful for the time I spent with him.
So. Here’s one lesson of the many lessons I learned. Continually release the obstacle of fear. Be present in the moment. Trust God in the moment.
To be present in the moment means we are not focused on what was or what will be but simply what is right now. When we pay attention to the moment, we learn more and eventually are able to replace fear with trust.
This lesson taught me to stop and ask, “What is God teaching me in this moment?”
While this lesson and all the lessons learned from the hard place of life were beyond valuable, Pastor Chuck’s presence and time became the all important lesson for me and many:
Our faith community could not heal on our own. We needed direction and guidance to move out of the hard place of exhaustion and stress. While we each had to make the decision to be healed in our brokenness, we needed Pastor Chuck to help us find our way.
Our best advice: Connect with a life-coach, pastor, spiritual advisor, professional counselor, or trusted friend to direct, guide, and highlight valuable life-lessons when you find yourself in the hard place.